To Be Trusted Is To Be Loved

When we say to someone, "I love you", we convey our feelings towards him or her. We express our liking for the person; how we see the person as a whole. The world may not like him but he or she remains the most wonderful person for us. This is about loving & being loved.

On the other hand, when we tell someone,"I  trust you", we talk  about the whole character of the person. We talk about our faith in his behavior even in the most trying situations. 

So, how 'to be trusted' is better than 'to be loved'? While 'being loved' means about the way someone sees you, 'being trusted' means about how you see yourself. A person with a very high trust quotient will not only win the hearts of majority of people, but will also love himself for what he is. People who have low trust quotient strive hard to be loved but people who have high trust value are loved by all & sundry. Most importantly, they love themselves & that is why they shower it on others. In fact, the first requirement to love others is to love yourself & to be trust worthy. 

"I do not trust people who don't love themselves & yet tell me, "I love you". There is an African saying which is: Be careful when a naked person offers you a shirt." - Maya Angelou

This by means does not undermine the importance of love. Many a time, love gives rise to trust. Love at first sight is the prime example of this phenomenon. A voice inside you hints at someone & you respond to this voice by expressing your love for the person. The other person does the same because his intuition also suggests him to go ahead. This is the beginning of a long term relationship. In such cases, person trusts himself before trusting others. You are generally rewarded if you trust your intuition. 

When you trust someone, you stop questioning. You don't question the beauty of a flower; you just enjoy its beauty; you love it because you trust that it is beautiful. If you ask, "Is it really beautiful?", you can't love it because you lose the trust on its beauty by questioning it. Even if you get the answer, you won't love it any more. You will ask another question &, then another. Trust is like a mirror which can be fixed if broken, but leaves a crack for others to see only a distorted image. If trusting is the beginning of love; questioning is the end of it.