Surrendering To Love

Man is an emotional animal. With so much of chaos around us, love has become an indispensable emotion. But, there are some prerequisites to love someone. Not that you would require these traits in you if you love someone, but it will surface from nowhere & you would surprise yourself. 

When you love someone, you surrender yourself to that person. The first thing that you surrender is your ego. Ego is one emotion that separates us from animals. Human beings have this in plenty & as they grow up, they accumulate it as a prized possession. Ego is just opposite of love. Once ego builds a covering around us, we become inaccessible to any form of love. And since we don't feel the compassion of others, we fail to express it as well. So, the first step of loving a person is to shed the ego.

The next thing to remember is that you don't love someone for any reason. You don't love someone because he or she is young or beautiful, smart or intelligent, rich or powerful; you just love him or her for being what the person is. You love the person, not the trait in him. Love between two persons doesn't die or become less intense as they grow old. On the contrary, if they are truly in love, it will only get more intense. If love has diminished, it only indicates you loved not the person, but something that he had, and that something has diminished with the passage of time.

Love doesn't demand anything. It only knows giving & doesn't expect anything in return. Unrequited love is a misnomer as love doesn't require the return of favor from another person. But there are few things that happen on their own when you are in love. It gives you strength & increases your self-worth as you feel wanted. But, to have a good self-esteem you don't need to love others or get loved; just start loving yourself as you are & you will increase your self-worth.

"Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage." - Lao Tzu 

When you are in love, the things which look insignificant to others mean a lot to you & things which mean a world to others become insignificant to you. So, while others are busy building castles, people in love are living their dream. While others are planning about years ahead, they are living their moments. Even a stroll in the park with your partner becomes so valuable that you treasure it for whole of your life. When you have love of your life around you, even simple things become special. Things which never interested you become special because it means so much to your partner.

When such things happen in your life, you can be sure that you have got someone that you can't live without. Celebrate as you are truly in love!