Power Of Silence

People give undue importance to speech while the fact is that silence can also be a very effective form of communication. Surprisingly, argument is considered a war of words; not a war of views. The fact is that the person with lesser understanding of the topic needs support of words. A person who is clear about what he is talking doesn't require too many words to put his point across. If your intentions are right, you don't need to explain it to others. Your actions will explain it much better than your words. Emerson put it quite succinctly when he stated,

                    "Your actions speak so loudly that I cannot hear what you say." 

The most powerful language of the world is the language of emotions. When we are in a state of emotional trance, we generally don't speak. Take the case of two people deeply in love or the love of mother for her daughter, they don't communicate yet understand every unspoken world. On the contrary, when two people have an altercation, they shout their lungs out because there is no emotional bonding between the two. They don't understand each other words; they even don't want to be understood. 

Sometimes, people say that this is burst of negative energy and it is good to give vent to your feelings. But this negative energy is only going to come back, if you shout or swear. It is because the intention is not to kill negative energy, but to show others how agitated you are. Most of the times, speaking loudly at someone produces more negative energy, aimed at self. 

If you are cross with someone, express your displeasure in a soft manner. It will have a long lasting effect on the other person; & more importantly, it will sooth your nerves. If he doesn't understand the silence, he surely will not understand your words too.