We cant live in yesterdays. Can we? The biggest problem with living in yesterday is that you can only rue missed changes, tasks which were not performed, friendships which could never be. Neither can we live in tomorrows. Today is the most important day of your life. Make the most of it. Live in now. It will also become yesterday tomorrow. So before it becomes history, get the best out of it. This is the only real day you have got. Rest all is imaginary.
We often come across people complaining about struggling childhood. We grudge as if we cannot experience our childhood again. Your childhood starts the moment you become a child & that moment can be now. Childhood is not age-related; it is state-related. To be a child you have to get into his state. Period. We don't miss our childhood; we get mature a little too fast. If you want to enjoy life, be a child again. And you have an added advantage this time; you can choose the kind of childhood you want to have- a struggling one or a happy one.
Someone said it nicely- " We are sum total of the people we have met in our life." We meet people, spend time with them, learn from them & move on. But some people leave an indelible impression on us. They may be away from us, but remain very close at heart. Occasionally we fight with them but find them by our side in trouble. They are called our friends. If you want to know about the quality of your friends, have a close look at your character. You are what your friends made you or are in the process of making you. So, when you choose your friends, you choose your character, your destiny. But, once you have chosen your friend, it is your duty to accept him as he is not as you wanted him to be. Nevertheless, you should make all efforts to guide him to the right direction. Only then you would have played your role as a true friend.
People do bad things to you. True. But the bigger truth is that you do even worse by not forgiving these people. When people ditch you, two-time you, it hurts- after all we are all human. And it is more human to nurse a bad feeling for the person. The problem lies in the fact that by nursing a bitter feeling for that person you are making yourself a victim & a culprit at the same time. You are haunted by the bitter incident or by foul words that he spoke against you. And you carry these monkeys on your chest, day in & day out. The only way to get rid of this anathema is to forgive. Many a times, even after forgiving it will haunt you. That is because you have not forgiven him in letter & spirit. Not only forgive but also forget that such incident ever took place. I know it sounds impractical, but believe me this is the only way to get that monkey off your chest.
People do strange things to be happy. They buy expensive cars, go to exotic locations or try to get good marks to be happy. But, happiness slips away as fast as it comes. It is because we look outwards for happiness. Happiness gained through external sources is ephemeral. It is eternal if it is sourced from within. It is a choice to be made rather than an object to be acquired. The fact is that a child is the happiest person in any home despite least possessions. An ordinary farmer can be happier than a very rich man. The difference lies not in their fortune but in their understanding of happiness. You are as happy as you choose to be. So, make the right choice !
God has chosen us to come in human form for a purpose. Our job is to recognize this purpose & work towards it. Life is not about avoiding the challenges or waiting for the storm to pass. Neither it is about being in comfort zone all the time. Life is not about a plush job, a fixed income, collecting toys or a big house. It is also not about passing years or maintaining relationships.
Life is about enjoying challenges & coming out of the comfort zone. It is about challenging your limits & defying boundaries. Life is about enjoying the moment & living in 'now'. It is about meeting your purpose & leaving a legacy. It is about living the relationships. Life is about dancing in the rain.
Whom would you like to meet first every morning & why? What are the qualities that you like most in him? What if you have the same qualities? Choose your role model today if you don't have one. And follow him to the hilt. One way to be successful is to follow the path of a successful person & then add your own special effects. If you repeat this pattern you will blaze a trail in your field.
